Break free from jealousy in polyamory and create more meaningful and loving open relationships in our monthly transformative workshops!

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Raise your hand if any of these sound familiar…

You get that sick feeling in the pit of your stomach the moment you imagine your partner in bed with someone else, and you’re consumed with jealousy and insecurity. You see the benefits of an open relationship, but your body is just not going along for the ride

Your partner struggles emotionally with open relating, and you desperately want to help them feel safe. You recognize that you can't just "talk" these emotions away and you don't know what else to do!

You’re tired of conflict and endless arguments about dating new people, sexual safety, emotional safety, or rules and agreements, so you start avoiding them altogether!

Perhaps you haven't even opened up yet, or are just exploring the idea, and already there are so many tense discussions!

Dating as a polyamorous person turned out to be much harder than you expected. After all, who wants to date someone who "basically has permission to cheat''?!

If you said YES to any of these...you’re not alone!

We can relate because we’ve been exactly where you are, feeling the same pains... heck sometimes we still struggle! This does not make us wrong or “not poly enough”, it just makes us real about our struggles! 


We remember spending so much time (and money we didn’t have) with relationship counselors who frankly didn't get us. Some even insisted we go back to monogamy instead of helping us with polyamory! 


And monogamous friends and family were terrible at relationship support. How could they possibly help us with our open relationship? We even lost long-time friends over choosing polyamory as our love style. 


And getting polyamory help from poly folks online can be sketchy at best, as many are not trauma-informed and their advice can often lead you in the wrong direction. 


Reading all the poly books was great, but nothing could prepare us for the lived experience of moving through what felt like debilitating jealousy & insecurity in polyamory!


We remember wanting to call it quits when things were really rocky. We thought we were going to lose each other and that was terrifying!

Well, we’ve had some HUGE breakthroughs, and we’re super excited to help you go from jealousy & insecurity to thriving in Ethical Non-Monogamy!

After navigating our own complex open relationships for 10 years, and listening to thousands of LUL’ers (our community members), we identified 5 powerful strategies to help you thrive in more trusting, loving relationships that are true to who YOU are and the people you share your life with. We then curated a unique set of transformative online workshops so you can use these to manifest more conscious open relationships by:

  1. Expanding your Poly community, so you feel supported by people who really get you
  2. Empowering you with powerful conflict resolution tools, so you can actually enjoy your open relationships
  3. Focusing you and your partner's trauma healing so you can experience less jealousy in polyamory
  4. Exploring new poly dating options and go on new relationship adventures
  5. Deepening your connections with all your partners, through Tantra

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Testimonials From Our Members:


Teagan A.

“This program is valuable for anyone looking to consciously explore relationships beyond monogamy. Building a love life that exists "outside the box" can come with many challenges, but sharing and learning in a forum of like-minded hearts have been a healing experience of support and community for me.”


David F.

"I had an amazing time attending the Virtual Pleasure Garden. I loved the feelings of togetherness and loving connection that you created, as well as the amazing performers who offered beautiful gifts of flow with so much heart, skill, and sensuality."


Erin D.

"Leveled Up Love has provided so many people a sacred space to be vulnerable, receive support, and expand their minds on all things love and communication. What the community leaders have created is high-level, conscious, and full of wonderful information that people are so desperately in need of right now."

Daniela's Video Testimonial

Daniela was on the verge of splitting with her partner before learning our conflict resolution blueprint, which you will learn in our Secure Poly Collective workshops...

In our Secure Poly Collective workshops, you’ll discover:

How to End the Endless Poly Fights!

Fights over open relationships can really suck! We’re supposed to be loving more, not fighting more! Discover the blueprints to move from open relationship ruptures to repairs much faster, leaving you and your partner(s) even closer than before.

Learn how to get out of your head and into your heart by tapping into an instant state of compassion and empathy you never thought was possible. We will teach you powerful emotional attunement skills.

How to Conquer Jealousy and Find Serenity

Did you know that there are different types of jealousy?! Well, understanding them is key to resolving different emotions and resolving conflicts faster. Those inevitable moments of unexpected jealousy can also lead you to feel shame for not being “poly enough”. This can make you feel rather lonely and helpless. We’ve got your back! We’ll empower you with specific open relationship tools needed to help you regulate your own strong emotions when your partner is with someone else and you’re in distress.

How to Win at Poly Dating & Create Awesome Group Experiences

Open relationships bring with them some unique dating challenges most are not prepared for. Learn the strategies for dating as a polyamorous person and learn how to manifest conscious group experiences to bring more play and adventure into your relationships.

Two Men One Woman Laughing and Having Drinks
How to Get a Deeper Sense of Fulfillment from Conscious Open Relationships

Polyamory is not just about more $ex with more people. Ethical Non-monogamy can actually be about deep personal growth, transformative healing, and real opportunities to be in service to others. It’s crucial to explore which of your needs are the real driving force to be in an open relationship.

How to Help Struggling Partners with Healing Trauma

Ultimately a poly relationship is only as strong as the “sum of its parts”. If one person has not done the prerequisite healing work, then everyone struggles! When all the rationale and talk therapy in the world doesn’t move the needle from poly panic to poly security, you'll need to look at deeper past wounds. Join our monthly workshops including TRE® (Trauma Releasing Exercises) and Tapping/EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique).

Just imagine for a moment...

Feeling supported by people who really get you…

Putting a focus on healing past trauma...

Exploring new poly dating options…

Deepening your connections through Tantra…

...and actually enjoying your open relationships!

Here's What You Get in the 30-Day Free Trial:

  • Immersive Polyamory Workshops

    Join ongoing Poly classes with Polamory coaches, therapists, experts, and authors Jessica Fern, KamalaDevi McClure, Elisabeth Sheff, Derek Hart, Francesca Gentille, and/or other ENM experts. Multiple workshops will be available LIVE and RECORDED ($97 Value)

  • Trauma Healing Workshops

    Join ongoing workshops focused on trauma healing modalities such as TRE® (Trauma Releasing Exercises), Tapping/EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), and plant medicines, all to assist your body release stress, tension, and trauma that holds you back from thriving in Polyamory. Multiple workshops will be available LIVE and RECORDED ($54 Value)

  • Polyamory Social & Dating Events

    Polyamory Social & Speed Dating Events. Join a 2-3 hour virtual Poly event to meet other conscious open relators. You can also access our preferred poly dating app (Separate charges apply). ($35 Value)

  • Tantra Intimacy Workshops

    Join ongoing Tantra Demonstration & Instructional Workshops: Create deep, more sacred connections with yourself and your current (or future) partners. Honor the Yoni and Lingam as the sources of creation they are, and access the sacred healer within YOU! These will be LIVE only events, with NO recordings ($67 Value) 

  • Polyamory Community (24/7)

    Join our high vibe poly communities filled with compassionate open-minded members to relate with and even find new romance. You’ll also be supported by brilliant polyamory coaches like Jessica Fern & KamalaDevi McClure (Priceless!)

  • BONUS #1: The Open Relationship Academy

    24/7 VIP access to over 200 hours of curated content from prior poly classes. Additional poly resources are included in the Open Relationship Academy, on our Mighty Networks Channel ($27 Value)

  • BONUS #2: Discounted Private Coaching

    Access to world-class 1:1 open relationship coaches & guides (with discounted private session rates)

  • BONUS #3: The Ultimate Open Relationship Toolkit

  • Pre-recorded Polyamory Workshop
    ($97 VALUE)

  • Communication Blueprint Training Video & PDF
    ($127 VALUE)

  • The Open Relationship Type Guide
    ($47 VALUE)

  • The Open Relationship Agreement Guide
    ($47 VALUE)

The Secure Poly Collective

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Free Trial for 30 Days!

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First Month's Value: $652

$47 / month thereafter

Upcoming Events, Classes & Workshops

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Special Note: We know that your life is full! You're not expected to attend all of our events. They will repeat every month (with different content but similar themes), so it's perfectly ok to pick and choose those that fit your schedule. We will send you reminders for each event. No pressure, no worries, let's take our time, Namaste! 

In our Secure Poly Immersion Workshops, our team of world-class educators take our members on deep dives to answer these common questions:

Why do I keep getting in “trouble” when I’m telling the truth and following our open relationship agreements? Why aren’t our agreements enough?

Why does it still feel like cheating when my partner is honest about seeing someone else? And why does it hurt so damn much?

How do I get my partner to understand how scared and jealous I get when they’re with someone else?


How do we strike the right balance between our freedom and our responsibility to each other?

In monogamy, there are things like a ring, a marriage certificate, or a house to make us feel safe... where do we find this kind of security in non-monogamy?

My friends and family just don’t get me! How can I have a “conversation” with family members, friends, or co-workers without all the judgment?


Where do I find the right people to date who share my non-monogamous values?

How do I find community, connection, and support as a polyamorous person?

When do I bring this up to my kids? Or do I? How do kids deal with all of this?

Why do some intimate group experiences feel awkward and how can we make them more enjoyable?

These are the five most common open relationship pitfalls, and here are the strategies to avoid them!

#1: You feel isolated, longing for others who accept your open love style...
Let's Expand Your Poly Community
#2: You desire more love but now you're just managing more stress...
Let's Empower You With Critical Tools
#3: You get non monogamy but your nervous system is in panic...
Let's Begin Your Trauma Healing
#4: You realize that dating as a poly person can be challenging...
Let's Explore New Poly Dating Options
#5: You realize that depth of intimacy can get lost with multiple partners...
Let's Create Next Level Intimacy

This is NOT a DIY course with boring classes and lots of homework


(Who has time for all that anyway!) 


These are hands-on, high-touch experiences to help you stress less and love more!


The Secure Poly Collective Trial Membership, with UNLIMITED access to ALL our events, is perfect for you if…

  • You’re managing more difficult open relationship conversations, instead of experiencing more love!

    Are you trying to get your partner to see that your jealousy may be an expression of your unhealed past trauma wounds? You don’t actually WANT to feel jealous! Or are you the one, on the other side, trying to convince your partner that all their insecurities are unnecessary because you love them dearly? You just want to love more!

    Included in your membership are monthly workshops, with expert polyamory coaches and therapists.

  • You sometimes feel isolated because your family, friends and lovers can't relate to your polyamorous love style.

    Imagine being a part of a thriving Poly community with over 6,500 high vibes, compassionate people, and our smaller, more intimate VIP community. This smaller VIP community includes brilliant open relationship experts like Jessica Fern, KamalaDevi McClure, and more!

    You can finally get vulnerable, get polyamory support in a safe space, and maybe even discover new romance.

  • You’re having a hard time finding new poly people to date or finding it hard to make poly relationships last.

    First, you’ll be invited to our new favorite open relationship connection platform.

    Your membership also includes monthly speed dating salons, for making new connections and live Tantra demo classes, to deepen existing ones.

How long can you afford to keep doing this open relating thing, on your own, without the support of a community and top experts who really get you?

Hear from one of our top experts...


“When you learn how to achieve true emotional security in an open relationship, and can move beyond just ethical non-monogamy, you’ll discover a deeper form of open relating that only comes from knowing how to give each partner the comfort they need.”


- Derek Hart, America's Relationship Rebuilder

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Meet our amazing team of experts:

More immersive private coaching packages are also available! 

Contact us to discuss details...

Does Open Relating Just Feel Too Hard Sometimes?

  • You or your partner spend way too much of your time and energy battling feelings of insecurity and jealousy

  • You’re “newish” to opening up your relationship and it’s not going as well as you’d like

  • You’re already super busy with life, so the idea of juggling multiple relationships just gives you a headache!

  • The idea of “coming out” as polyamorous and telling your family and friends sounds overwhelming

  • You can’t seem to find like-minded people to connect with who are also open!

Ready for a new way to experience fulfilling open relationships?

Why Choose Us?

  • Experienced

    We have a combined 11 years of experience practicing ethical and conscious non-monogamy.

    We've learned through our own "poly school of hard knocks" and studied frameworks such as attachment theory, core human needs and love languages.

    We also view challenging behaviors in polyamory through a trauma-informed lens, which alone was a game-changer.

  • Compassionate

    We are NOT one of those online polyamory communities where some people tell other people to "own their sh** and stop being so possessive".

    We're advocates for those who are struggling in polyamory and the beautiful partners who support them.

  • Affordable

    You could waste thousands of dollars and hours of time on therapists and relationship coaches who don’t really get open relating. They often do not have the unique tools to help you work through your unique challenges.

    You don’t have to DIY open relationships or drain yourself looking for polyamory counseling in all the wrong places. We’ve got you covered.

Enjoy more freedom, adventure, and love without imploding your existing relationships...

About Your Guides, Lea + Shai

As Featured In:

Lea’s Story

I wasn’t exactly designed or prepared for polyamory. But what I really desired from the beginning was freedom.


Something was telling me that this work would be worth it. I knew that I would experience many challenges, but that through the process I would uncover where my discomfort was coming from. That belief led me on a groundbreaking exploration of self-discovery.


Shai’s Story

Even though it was hard, opening up my relationship was one of the best decisions I ever made.


The freedom and variety of amazing connections allowed me to grow exponentially. I've grown intellectually, spiritually, erotically, emotionally, and even professionally because of this love style.




Do You Need Deeper Polyamory Support Right Now?


You’ll get personalized 1:1 polyamory support from Lea, Shai and their all-star team of open relationship coaches.


Contact us for a complimentary 30-minute introductory call.

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Ready To Go From Poly Panic To Poly Secure?

You’ve got this, and we’ve got you!