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The Secure Poly Experience

An Immersive & Transformational Weekend

presented by
Leveled Up Love

Including:

SATURDAY JUNE 5TH
SUNDAY JUNE 6TH

Starting at 12PM Eastern / 9AM Pacific

Watch Sessions Live or Recordings Later

SATURDAY JUNE 5TH
SUNDAY JUNE 6th

Starting at 12PM Eastern / 9AM Pacific

Watch Sessions Live or Recordings Later

In our two-day group immersion into creating conscious open relationships, filled with presentations, Q&A sessions and powerful workshops, you’ll discover:

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How to End the Endless Poly Fights!

Fights over open relationships can really suck! We’re supposed to be loving more, not fighting more! Discover the blueprints to move from open relationship ruptures to repairs much faster, leaving you and your partner(s) even closer than before.

Learn how to get out of your head and into your heart by tapping into an instant state of compassion and empathy you never thought was possible. We will teach you powerful emotional attunement skills.

How to Conquer Jealousy and Find Serenity

Did you know that there are different types of jealousy?! Well, understanding them is key to resolving different emotions and resolving conflicts faster. Those inevitable moments of unexpected jealousy can also lead you to feel shame for not being “poly enough”. This can make you feel rather lonely and helpless. We’ve got your back! We’ll empower you with the specific tools needed to help you regulate your own strong emotions when your partner is with someone else and you’re in distress.

How To Win At Poly Dating & Create Awesome Group Experiences

Open relationships bring with them some unique dating challenges most are not prepared for. Learn the strategies for dating as a polyamorous person and learn how to manifest conscious group experiences to bring more play and adventure into your relationships.

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How to Get a Deeper Sense of Fulfillment from Conscious Open Relationships

Polyamory is not just about more $ex with more people. Ethical Non-monogamy can actually be about deep personal growth, transformative healing, and real opportunities to be in service to others. It’s crucial to explore which of your needs are the real driving force to be in an open relationship.

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How To Help Struggling Partners With Past Traumas

Ultimately a poly relationship is only as strong as the “sum of its parts”. If one person has not done the prerequisite work, then everyone struggles! When all the rationale and talk therapy in the world doesn’t move the needle from poly panic to poly security, you need to look at deeper past wounds. Learn about healing modalities, such as Gentle Reprocessing & Trauma Release Exercises (TRE), that help struggling partners release some of their past wounds and show up to their relationships at their best.

A Heart-Centered $exual Experience

Our World-Class Virtual Pleasure Garden Event is included in your ticket price. Imagine a physically and emotionally safe online container for a heart-centered $exual experience designed to bring connection, embodiment, and pleasure to the privacy of your own home. (Included yet optional)

“Basking in the authentic, freed up $exual expression and connections last night!”
- John, past VPG attendee

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A complete and immersive weekend diving into consensual non-monogamy with powerful new tools & mindsets

Value: $497

  • Get out of your head and into your heart. Learn how you can tap into an instant state of compassion and empathy you never thought was possible. Derek Hart, America’s Relationship Rebuilder, will teach you these powerful skills in his emotional attunement workshops throughout the weekend.

  • Join our talks & learn the secrets you won’t find in polyamory books. Immerse yourself in the wisdom of our polyamory and relationship experts, including author of PolySecure Jessica Fern and author of A Polyamorous Queer, Kinky Love Story, KamalaDevi McClure.

  • It can get lonely when your friends and family just don’t get you! You’ll join our exclusive community for more intimate interactions.

  • Never miss a thing. Get notifications from our chatbot system in FB Messenger.

  • Life can get hectic. You can always watch the replays on demand (up to 30 days) inside our Private Facebook group.

Our Saturday night VIRTUAL PLEASURE GARDEN, hosted by Leveled Up Love

Value: $87

  • Imagine a physically and emotionally safe online container for a heart-centered $exual experience designed to bring connection, embodiment and pleasure to the privacy of your own home (Included yet optional)

“Truly an amazing event. The collection of joyful, fun people meant everything. Playful and seductive.”

“Thank you Shai and Lea for hosting such a beautiful event. I am already looking forward to the next one!”

- Toby

“Basking in the authentic, freed up $exual expression and connections last night!”

 - John

“Such a great way to share sensual energy and passion. It was lovely to be in the spirit with so many people!”

“The feel was classy, safe and sacred, very honored to have been a part of this event.”

“Thx Shai and Lea for organizing this wonderful event and for the steamy opening!”

- Edy

“It was QUITE the exciting virtual event...The erotic energy was flowing and the Host and Hostess were steaming hot as well!”

“I have never had anyone else watch me and a lover. So you all popped my 🍒!!! Love and light to all...”

- Natalie

Complementary Access To The Ultimate Open Relationship Toolkit, by Leveled Up Love

Value: $318

  • A Polyamory Mastery Workshop: 5 Steps To Revealing Blind Spots

  • Complete Conflict Resolution Training - Video & Ebook

  • The Open Relationship Type Guide

  • The Open Relationship Agreement Guide

BONUS e-book
The Naked Truth: How I Saved my Life by Becoming a Stripper

by Maria Merloni

Value: $27

BONUS e-book
Polyamory Roadmap: Negotiate Open Relationship Rules with More Pleasure & Less Heartache

by Baba Dez & KamalaDevi McClure

Value: $27

BONUS e-book
The Only Proven Way To Restore A Marriage

by Derek Hart

Value: $27

Total Value: $983

Now: $97-$247

Secure Emotional Attachment & Polyamory Are Finally Coming Together!

Watch Our Older Webinar Replay Below:

Get ready for our immersive weekend experience...

Join our Two Day Journey Into Conscious Open Relationships With Our All Star Team:

Look, we get it...
because we’ve been there!

You’re in (or thinking about) an open relationship because one or both of you wanna love more than one. Instead, you’re just managing more jealousy and more frustration... But Polyamory is maturing and we are reinventing how to navigate our open relationships in a more conscious way.

“When you learn how to achieve true emotional security in an open relationship, and can move beyond just ethical non-monogamy, you’ll discover a deeper form of open relating that only comes from knowing how to give each partner the comfort they need.”

- Derek Hart

Ready To Go From Poly Panic to Poly Security?

In this transformational weekend, we’ll take a deeper dive into answering these common questions:

Why do I keep getting in “trouble” when I’m telling the truth and following our open relationship agreements? Why aren’t our agreements enough?

How do I get my partner to understand how scared and jealous I get when they’re with someone else?

Why does it still feel like cheating when my partner is honest about seeing someone else? And why does it hurt so damn much?

How do we strike the right balance between our freedom and our responsibility to each other?

We’ll also dive deeper into these questions:

In monogamy, there are things like a ring, a marriage certificate or a house to make us feel safe... where do we find this kind of security in non-monogamy?

Where do I find the right people to date who share my non-monogamous values?

When do I bring this up to my kids? Or do I? How do kids deal with all of this?

My friends and family just don’t get me! How can I have the “conversation” with family members, friends or co-workers without all the judgment?

How do I find community, connection, and support as a polyamorous person?

Why do some intimate group experiences feel awkward and how can we make them more enjoyable?

Why does talking about my open love style with a new connection feel like such a daunting task? When is the best time to bring it up?

What Others Have to Say!

“I reached out to Shai when I felt like I had used up all of my resources in navigating a tough spot in my primary relationship. After listening to me recap the situation, Shai shared a couple of very useful models of communication, especially SPARC, which is basically a framework for Non-violent communication that really allows you and your partner to see and listen to each other’s feelings and needs. I literally went home and used SPARC that very evening after speaking with Shai and it was the most beautiful and helpful conversation I’d had with my partner in a month. My partner was also ready to adopt this framework so we are happy to have this tool in our kit now. I’m super grateful for Shai’s stepping in during that crucial moment!”

- Chelsey Kap

“Paul and I, despite our deep love, were struggling with communications that always seemed to lead to misunderstandings and upset feelings. During one of our misunderstandings, I felt Paul had given up on me. Looking for a space to vent, and gather my thoughts to decide on my future, this is when I found Shai and Lea. Initially, I thought this would be some sort of conflict resolution exercise, but instead, we were met with a safe and compassionate space. This was a pivotal moment for us, grounding us and rediscovering not only what brought us together in the beginning, but why we need each other now.”

- Sarah

We Can Show You How To Go From Poly Panic to Poly Security!

Did you know that you can’t just rationalize jealousy away?

For many people jealous feelings are tied to past wounding experiences that are buried deep inside their subconscious minds. It’s about time to understand how nervous systems & attachment styles play a critical role in open relationships.

 

From there you can learn how to apply this knowledge to manage jealousy better and find the security you’ve been searching for.

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This Immersive Weekend Will Transform Your “Relationship With Relationships!”

After this weekend, you will be empowered with the critical tools and expert guidance you need to build trust, find joy, and thrive in your own conscious open relationships.

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Saturday Schedule (Tentative)

12:00pm-1:00pm ET / 9:00am-10:00am PT
Shai Fishman, Co-Founder, Leveled Up Love & The Secure Poly Experience
Lea Aella, Co-Founder, Leveled Up Love & The Secure Poly Experience

The 5 critical questions you should be asking in ANY open relationship

Many people in non-monogamy struggle because they simply “don’t know what they don’t and should know”. In this 60 minute talk including a Q&A session, Shai & Lea will break down the 5 most crucial areas for discussion in consensual non-monogamy.

1:00pm-2:00pm ET / 10:00am-11:00am PT
Jessica Fern, Author of PolySecure & Trauma Specialist    
Special Guest, TBD

The Intersection of Race, Consent and Consensual Non Monogamy

Ricardo will interview Kevin about the unique dynamics when polyamory and race intersect. By the end of the session, white participants should have a clearer view of what POC encounter when entering polyamorous spaces and how to change those spaces to be more welcoming environments. POC participants should find fellowship and validation with a mind towards creating intentional resources for those facing their same struggles.

2:00pm-3:00pm ET / 11:00am-12:00pm PT

Break

3:00pm-4:00pm ET / 12:00pm-1:00pm PT
KamalaDevi McClure, Author, A Polyamorous Queer, Kinky Love Story
William Winters, Founder and Co-Director, Bonobo Network

Polyamory Dating & Creating Conscious Community (Including Threesomes/Play Parties!)

Dating as a non-monogamous person has its own unique challenges. Just talking about your open love style with a new connection can feel like such a daunting task. KamalaDevi & William will cover various dating and community-building strategies for polyamory. Also, to create positive “multi-lover” or threesome experiences, getting clear on everyone’s relationship status, boundaries, desires, $exual safety protocols, and future expectations is crucial. Learn to shift your mindset around in-person connections and how to build a conscious community so that you and your relationships get the support they need.

4:00pm-6:00pm ET / 1:00pm-3:00pm PT
Derek Hart, Attachment Expert & "America's Couples Rebuilder"
Lea Aella, Trauma Informed Open Relationship Guide

The Secure Poly Toolkit (Part 1)

For some of us, polyamory is a walk in the park. For others, it's left us scratching our heads on why we chose this in the first place. Sometimes, open relating feels just plain HARD. If there are triggers that kill your behavioral patterns that feel like a mystery, and fights that don't budge, this session could provide the insight you're looking for. In the words of one trauma expert, "You are not broken. You are hurt and in need of care." This session is a warm, nurturing, and shame-free environment for you to learn a healthy blueprint for caring for yourself and others. Here we dispense with the new-age myth that we are needy, codependent, or broken while cultivating a healthy balance between connection and autonomy to peacefully meet everyone's needs.

 

Lea and Derek offer their finest suite of relating tools in the form of 3 pillars: Exploration, Co-Regulation, and Self-Regulation. You'll get an insider look at Lea’s stable of CPTSD and trauma-centered tools and frameworks such as attachment theory and love languages to explore and regulate jealousy. Derek will facilitate interpersonal attunement activities using his 30,000+ hours of attachment-informed partner counseling.

 

You'll also hear insights into next-level root cause trauma resolutions through altered consciousness and plant medicines, breathwork, and self-care practices, and a full reading list to walk you along the path of transformation. You'll walk away with a concrete and customized toolbox for poly serenity and depth of connection with yourself and your partner(s) that you never thought possible.

6:00pm-8:00pm ET / 4:00pm-5:00pm PT

Break

7:00pm-8:00pm ET /4:00pm-5:00pm PT

Happy Hour (optional or longer break)

Happy Hour is your chance to commune with your fellow Leveled Up Lovers. For those adventurers joining the Virtual Pleasure Garden, this is also a great way to flirt a little and warm up for our extravagant show and the conscious play party that follows.

8:00pm-12:00am ET / 5:00pm-9:00pm PT

The Virtual Pleasure Garden*

Host: Shai Fishman, Co-Founder, Leveled Up Love & The Secure Poly Experience
Hostess: Lea Aella, Co-Founder, Leveled Up Love & The Secure Poly Experience

Imagine a physically and emotionally safe online container for a heart-centered $exual experience designed to bring connection, embodiment and pleasure to the privacy of your own home. Our World Class Virtual Pleasure Garden Event is completely included in your weekend ticket price.

*The Virtual Pleasure Garden is included but completely optional to join.

Sunday Schedule

12:00pm-1:30pm ET / 9:00am-10:30am PT
Jessica Fern, Author of PolySecure & Trauma Specialist    

How To Intervene When An Open Relationship Makes Your Nervous System Goes Into Fight, Flight or Freeze Modes

In this talk, Jessica will teach Polyvagal informed techniques to help you self-regulate your nervous system when unexpected open relationship stressors arise. Expect a 30-minute talk, 30 minutes of Q&A, and a 30-minute demonstration.

1:30pm-2:30pm ET / 10:30am-11:30am PT
Danielle Fishman, Relationship Coach & Trauma Educator

Shake Your Body & Befriend Your Nervous System: An Introduction to TRE® (Tension, Stress and Trauma Releasing Exercises)

Note: This session will include a virtual yet mildly physical class, so please dress comfortably, create a space where each participant has a chair to sit on, and a mat/blanket to lay on. 

 

There is no hiding from the fact that open relationships, no matter how conscious, can be challenging for most people’s bodies and minds. Danielle will discuss how to cultivate a deeper understanding and relationship with your body’s nervous system and its own subtle language of safety. She will then take you through an introduction to TRE® which is a simple yet innovative series of exercises/stretches that assist the body in releasing deep muscular patterns of stress, tension, and trauma.  Created by Dr. David Berceli, Ph.D., TRE® safely activates a natural reflex mechanism in the body that releases muscular tension, calming down the nervous system. When this mechanism is activated in a safe environment, the body is encouraged to return back to a state of balance and harmony. Danielle will also briefly provide information on The Safe and Sound Protocol, or SSP, a non-invasive, auditory application of Polyvagal Theory, based on decades of research and developed by Dr. Stephen Porges. 

2:30pm-3:00pm ET / 11:30am-12:00pm PT

Break

3:00pm-4:30pm ET / 12:00pm-1:30pm PT
Derek Hart, America’s Relationship Rebuilder
Lea Aella, Trauma Informed Open Relationship Guide

The Secure Poly Toolkit Continues (Part 2)

For some of us, polyamory is a walk in the park. For others, it's left us scratching our heads on why we chose this in the first place. Sometimes, open relating feels just plain HARD. If there are triggers that kill your behavioral patterns that feel like a mystery, and fights that don't budge, this session could provide the insight you're looking for. In the words of one trauma expert, "You are not broken. You are hurt and in need of care." This session is a warm, nurturing, and shame-free environment for you to learn a healthy blueprint for caring for yourself and others. Here we dispense with the new-age myth that we are needy, codependent, or broken while cultivating a healthy balance between connection and autonomy to peacefully meet everyone's needs.

 

Lea and Derek offer their finest suite of relating tools in the form of 3 pillars: Exploration, Co-Regulation, and Self-Regulation. You'll get an insider look at Lea’s stable of CPTSD and trauma-centered tools and frameworks such as attachment theory and love languages to explore and regulate jealousy. Derek will facilitate interpersonal attunement activities using his 30,000+ hours of attachment-informed partner counseling.

 

You'll also hear insights into next-level root cause trauma resolutions through altered consciousness and plant medicines, breathwork, and self-care practices, and a full reading list to walk you along the path of transformation. You'll walk away with a concrete and customized toolbox for poly serenity and depth of connection with yourself and your partner(s) that you never thought possible.

4:30pm-5:00pm ET / 1:30pm-2:00pm PT

Break

5:00pm-6:30pm ET / 2:00pm-3:30pm PT
Derek Hart, Attachment Expert & Couples Rebuilder
Lea Aella, Trauma Informed Open Relationship Guide 

The Secure Poly Toolkit (Part 3 see description above)

6:30pm-7:00pm ET / 3:30pm-4:00pm PT

Overtime, Closing Remarks, Q&A

This weekend is a one-of-a-kind immersion into the complex world of conscious open relationships.

 

We have gathered some of the top minds in the field to share a deep dive into understanding poly security and the critical emotional components of ethical non-monogamy.

 

Whether you’re an open relationship wiz, brand new to this lifestyle, or you’re just considering opening up for the first time, The Secure Poly Experience is here to support you on your journey to find healing, security, and adventure in conscious open relationships.

 

Our expert panel includes popular polyamory authors and speakers, Jessica Fern and KamalaDevi McClure who are taking the open relationship world by storm with their teachings on the complexities and nuances of non-monogamy.

This IS for you if:

You’re tired of managing the distress of your partner(s) and are serious about building conscious and ethical non-monogamous relationships.

You feel stuck in a never ending cycle of similar poly conflicts, maybe even after relationship counseling or reading all the open relationship books you can find.

You’ve been curious how attachment styles play a crucial role in open relationships and what you can do about it.

You find it hard to find, date and explain to new people what your lifestyle is all about.

You’re trying to find that delicate balance between personal freedom and your ability to respond to your partner(s), and it’s hard!

You want some powerful tools to move through the jealous moments in your open relationships.

This IS NOT for you if:

You believe your partner’s jealousy is 100% their work and responsibility, not yours.

You’re not interested in understanding how attachment styles affect polyamarous relationships.

You think you’ve got it all figured out and don’t really need much support in your open relationships.

“Leveled Up Love has provided so many people a sacred space to be vulnerable, receive support, and expand their minds on all things love and communication. What the community leaders have created is high-level, conscious, and full of wonderful information that people are so desperately in need of right now. I am grateful for this space - whether it be for sharing, listening, or educating others.”

- Erin

"Shai and Lea have created a community that provides a juicy, fun, safe space for lovers to talk about sacred touch, intentional relating, polyamory and much more. This is a place where I feel at ease, seen, and where I learn from those who share their views with conviction and humbleness. It feels like a well-tended garden, like a living room where you can learn and talk about relating. Listening in and contributing has been fun, informative, and has brought deep reflections, I am so thankful for this space."

- Enrico

A complete and immersive weekend diving into consensual non-monogamy with powerful new tools & mindsets

Value: $497

  • Get out of your head and into your heart. Learn how you can tap into an instant state of compassion and empathy you never thought was possible. Derek Hart, America’s Relationship Rebuilder, will teach you these powerful skills in his emotional attunement workshops throughout the weekend.

  • Join our talks & learn the secrets you won’t find in polyamory books. Immerse yourself in the wisdom of our polyamory and relationship experts, including author of PolySecure Jessica Fern and author of A Polyamorous Queer, Kinky Love Story, KamalaDevi McClure.

  • It can get lonely when your friends and family just don’t get you! You’ll join our exclusive community for more intimate interactions.

  • Never miss a thing. Get notifications from our chatbot system in FB Messenger.

  • Life can get hectic. You can always watch the replays on demand (up to 30 days) inside our Private Facebook group.

Our Saturday night VIRTUAL PLEASURE GARDEN, hosted by Leveled Up Love

Value: $87

  • Imagine a physically and emotionally safe online container for a heart-centered $exual experience designed to bring connection, embodiment and pleasure to the privacy of your own home (Included yet optional)

“Truly an amazing event. The collection of joyful, fun people meant everything. Playful and seductive.”

“Thank you Shai and Lea for hosting such a beautiful event. I am already looking forward to the next one!”

- Toby

“Basking in the authentic, freed up $exual expression and connections last night!”

 - John

“Such a great way to share sensual energy and passion. It was lovely to be in the spirit with so many people!”

“The feel was classy, safe and sacred, very honored to have been a part of this event.”

“Thx Shai and Lea for organizing this wonderful event and for the steamy opening!”

- Edy

“It was QUITE the exciting virtual event...The erotic energy was flowing and the Host and Hostess were steaming hot as well!”

“I have never had anyone else watch me and a lover. So you all popped my 🍒!!! Love and light to all...”

- Natalie

Complementary Access To The Ultimate Open Relationship Toolkit, by Leveled Up Love

Value: $318

  • A Polyamory Mastery Workshop: 5 Steps To Revealing Blind Spots

  • Complete Conflict Resolution Training - Video & Ebook

  • The Open Relationship Type Guide

  • The Open Relationship Agreement Guide

BONUS e-book
The Naked Truth: How I Saved my Life by Becoming a Stripper

by Maria Merloni

Value: $27

BONUS e-book
Polyamory Roadmap: Negotiate Open Relationship Rules with More Pleasure & Less Heartache

by Baba Dez & KamalaDevi McClure

Value: $27

BONUS e-book
The Only Proven Way To Restore A Marriage

by Derek Hart

Value: $27

Total Value: $983

Now: $97-$247

Hi, we’re Lea and Shai, founders of Leveled Up Love!

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To say we “struggled” is an understatement. At the start of our relationship, we went through hell and back, and we almost called it quits many times along the way.

 

The one thing that got us through was the continual discovery of new tools and mindsets that gave us hope.

 

Afterward, we knew that we couldn’t keep this new-found knowledge to ourselves! We needed to share it with other like-minded souls to help them through the same tough times and make their way out to the other side, just like we did!

 

At Leveled Up Love, we stand with those struggling with intense jealousy and their partners, who desperately want to see their anxious loved ones feel safe.

 

We offer the critical tools, expert guidance, and a compassionate community, so partners can rebuild trust, find joy, and thrive again in their conscious open relationships!

 

With us, open-relators can feel safe, seen, loved, and fully expressed while also having the freedom to explore other relationship adventures that lead to fulfilling growth, healing, and service to others.

This weekend immersion is something we wish existed before jumping into our open relationship. Had we known these secrets before we dove in headfirst, it would’ve made the transition from mono to poly 100x smoother, easier, and more peaceful.

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